Saturday, August 11, 2012

Mentoring as a Dummy understands!








Well, A modest word of english vocabulary, Mentor/ing has been much debated and discussed of late. Why so?: , it was there for quite a long time! True, when a corporate eagle with a penchant for innovation stumbles upon a possiblility to earn a few bucks more with minimum efforts, well, Eureka he cries out.

Yes that is what happened to Mentoring :

When you come across this word , the first thing you visualise is about that day, when you were empathetically sympethised by your senior colleague who supported you with soothing words, ensconced within his altruistic attitude, for you were fired by your boss, the first time in your career!. Yes, to err is humane! And to fire obviously is Bossism!!



Whatever., You regard him still as your mentor, for sure, (I know!) because he assumed the role of the guardian angel, and fed you with manna of wisdom and gave solace. This exactly is a mentor/ protégé relationship. Formed involuntarily and unawares, it is a species of mentoring , and that is the topic we discuss today!



If you delve deep into the epics, fidgeting through the pages of Bhagwat Gita, you find that the whole book was about mentoring!, It was just this kind of relationship, when Bhagwan Himself prepared Arjuna to wage the most historical war ever fought!



Then what is mentoring? Shall we try to define it? The intelligentsia or the intelligent people ( Unlike me , ha ha) have defined mentoring thus:



“Mentoring is most often defined as a professional relationship in which an experienced person (the mentor) assists another (the mentee) in developing specific skills and knowledge that will enhance the latters professional and personal growth.”



Well, I just don’t remember who coined this , but if you ask me to define mentoring I would attempt like this:



Mentoring includes mostly a dyadic intellectual relationship , inter –vivos, where the more experienced provides support to the inexperienced by sharing and imparting pedagogical, psychological, and emotional faculites for the overall development of the latter. The former is termed the Mentor and the latter the Mentee,/protégé, and the relationship Mentoring.





I confine my definition to the above for the sake of brevity . Mentoring is thus the flow of information, experience, and emotional support to the mentee for improving his skill and efficiency leading to overall development of the personality of the mentee.



Let me try to classify mentoring , having attempted to define mentoring thus:



Mentoring could be broadly classified into voluntary and involuntary, formal and informal, structured and random, need based and induced ,spontaneous and programmed etc.. etc.





The basic classification is still based on how the association is kindled, that is structured(organised) and informal . We

give thrust to the former, ie sturctured and organised





mentoring as it is a matter of our present concern from the organisational point of view.





Let us now examine Informal (unorganised)and Formal (organised or structured) mentoring just for the sake of comparison:







Informal



No specific goals defined, and results not specified

No stipulated time frame for implementation and execution

Indirect and incidental benefits to the organisation

Selection is natural and informal



Formal



Goals and Results specifically designed and specified

Results are measured and monitored

Specific criteria for seclection of the mentors and mentees

Traning /enabling / capacitating Mentors provided





As mentioned earlier, mentoring involves the flow of knowledge, skill , information or solutions depending upon the requirements of the association. Mentoring not only includes this, but also the monitoring, modulating, correcting, restructuring and guiding the mentee by interference by the mentor at appropriate and requisite stages of development. This is important for any mentoring association to achieve the goals more effectievely.









Is mentoring different from coaching?



Unfortunately the dictionary meaning of mentoring includes coaching, tutoring, etc. However we would have to understand another meaning than the lexicon expert foresaw! Mentoring includes or adopts the techniques of coaching but infact it is not coaching, as a mentor cannot be a coach. Mentoring is more relational than functional. The coaching becomes more formal and issue based rather than relational as in the case of mentoring where it need not be for a highly specialised functional development.





Pal/Buddy systems Versus Mentoring:



Buddy, Pal systems have emerged mushroomingly in organisations of closed culture as their exposure to sister concerns are limited to business purposes only. Even the recreational facilities are proviced by the employer in most of the new era organisations, where work becomes more mechanical and rigorousotherwise.



This system helps to informally encourage the new recruit to adjust and acquiesce with the new environment. It could be more between peers, or staff of the same level, and confined to the limited purpose of introducing the new employee to fall in place within the organisational set up with minimal disarray.



In mentoring as we are aware, the overall improvement and development of the person (mentee) is involved than the limited purpose of acqueiscence and mostly between persons with different levels of knowledge or skills.









Counselling and Mentoring:



Again misunderstood oft. Counselling is problem oriented and highly specialised for a definite purpose. It could be legal, social , or medical, or technical piece of information helping the client. A lawyer does counsel , and so does a doctor,and all specialised professionals, . Marriage couselling is another form of social counselling.



Mentoring is absolutely different as purpose is not confined to one single aspect of development and not simply problem solving. It is altogether a different ball game, though in result the mentee or the client benefits. Mentoring has predetermined goals , well defined paths to trod on, and system for check and corrections including reorientation. This is a longer process, and could continue till the goals are achieved or discarded.





Why do we require mentoring?



Mentoring has been happening from time immemmorial and it was located, isolated and baptised much later. Nothing is new except the outlook of the society, form time to time when it comes to invention of a new concept which was there in a different shape and form, though not so refined and polished.(old wine in new bottle concept) GOD created man to react to stimulii and find his own solutions . Mentoring so remained in the organisation rather unknown or regarded unimportant or not so important, have surfaced now luring the present day , cost effective HR managers who thought to garner this informal and involuntary system to act as milch cow.



And sure it does, just read on:





1) The relationship brings in development in the mentee useful for the organisation.

2) The organisation saves quite a lot of money otherwise required for full fledged training sessions

3)The mentee is comfortable and there are no fixed and rigid rules governing the association which is more volatile and informal compared to boring class room sessions.

4) The mentee opens up himself, and is vulnerable to positive changes under an accepted mentor while he may be reluctant and withdrawn when it comes to him from a regular training session.

5) Improving the overall productivity of the organisation

6) The reception level of the mentee is much higher and he is more responsive to stimuli being an informal and conducive environment , and a homely feeling is developed when the actual process goes on unaware by both the mentor and the mentee.

7) Bringing out a mentoring culture, which promotes employee development continuously.



I shall try to discuss the demerits or disadvantages of mentoring in the end of this paper as I do not wish to spoil the positive note I try to pur forth.









Voluntary and structured Mentoring:







We all are aware of informal and involuntary mentoring just because it happens once at least in everyones life, and most of us throw those thoughts in the oblivions.



The need of the hour is something different, we don’t have time to wait for it to happen. When the natural pearls are

difficult to get , let us culture pearls which are in no way inferior,in looks and quality to the originals, . And so be it.



Mentoring needs to be organised and structured , we have to tap the potential of this valuable process into organisational benefit. The costs involved in routine training is sky rocketing and skilled people have started drifting away for greener pastures , everywhere. There is no end for that rat race. It has become further more necessary to hone the skills of our loyal workforce to make them more efficient and productive.



Mentoring happens , still to be less costlier, and more effective within a company with limited resources like ours. The importance of structuring and modulating mentoring for the benefit of the organisation requires some attention.

1) Lesser budget for training sessions

2) Lesser budget on TA/DA of concerned staff

3) More effective mentors who has indepth information about the mother organisation comared to hired faculties and speakers for training sessions

4) Increased dexterity and understanding of the business for the mentee as he is trained by an insider mentor.







5) Efficiency of the employee (mentee) increases and results in increased output by the organisation as a whole.

6) Does not require separate rigid and fixed time schedules as mentoring acitivity fills in the natural time gaps that are left over unproductive ,(like the solutte finding place in between the molecules of solvent), due to chit chat, etc, thereby resulting in better productivity saving valuable manhours.





Compatibility is a big issue:



In structured mentoring compatibility is of prime importance. Just because a person is senior in his field does not make him compatible for mentoring. Mentoring is basically a relational affair than a functional one, so , this compatibility issue becomes more prominent. Mentors should not only be capable but compatible. He should have an iron nerve at the same time a well controlled emotional balance. His reactions should be rational and logical. He should be compassionate and understanding.



Compatibility as I feel is the unision between the mentor and the mentee with the least possible friction in between.



The mentee /protégé on the other hand should be having a receptive mind. He should not close his mind to development while his ego should not clutter his upper storey . He can afford to be less knowledgeable compared to the mentor, and also less skilled and defined. He is just like an unpolished diamond. In the hands of the mentor it turns out into a really costly gem.







Sometimes compatibility just occurs,naturally, otherwise it needs to be identified and accordingly paired.



The parameters which signifies compatibility are multifarious depending upon the specific situational requirements. It includes and involves the indepth study of the background of the persons involved, including educational qualifications, special skills if any, work experience , communication skills, and above all his character!



A mentee has also to be equally virtuous, though he may lag behind a little in the specific skill or knowledge for which he is being trained and mentored.





Various types of structured mentoring:



1) Assigned in a specific training programme : This happens when the mentoring is limited to a particular class of employees, of more or less the same group and ethnicity, when mentoring forms an integral part of the already scheduled training programme.The selection of mentors and mentees happens in the programme itself.



2) Mutual selection: Organisation gives a list of mentors and the mentees are free to chose their mentors within the available lot.However the overall confirmation is done by the mangment so as to avoid conflicts of interests and external factors affecting the association detrimental to the cause.







3) Closed groups: Management broadly advises the mentors and several mentees of a similar and miscible group, requiring a specific issue in common to be addressed under one single mentor.This involves lesser cost and formalities for implementation, and easly workable.



4) Guided resource based mentoring: Here the management takes into consideration of all the specific requirements of the mentees involved and also identifies certain mentors based on their available resources and geographical locations. The mentees are identified into groups and given a choice of selecting their respective mentor or group head. This is ideal for highly localised problems and issues and being decentralised, has more working freedom.It also involves lesser movement of the persons grouped and will not hamper regular work schedules either.



5) Executive mentoring: This improves the mentoring culture of the organisation and is a tool for planning wider spans of organisational targets and achieving them. This is an ongoing and continuing process in the reverse or top down model , where executives are constantly mentored to bring in the desired output.





The concept and requirements of organised mentoring : the Flow chart:



Organised mentoring involves or undergoes through the following process:



Conceptualisation, setting up of predefined goals and targets, planning, implementation, monitoring and finally evaluation and closure.





Conceptualisation is nothing but the areas of implementation thinking from the management point of view for the overall benefit of the organisation, within a specific time frame. It braodly identifies the requirements of the organisation within the planning period for specific result oriented development.





Setting up of goals and targets:

Is an extension of conceptualisation where it goes a step ahead defining each step invoved and amount of output expected from each phase. This can vary from highly result oriented structures to increase profits / turnover within the existing resource allocation or otherwise.After identifying the broad requirements, the goals could be further fine tuned for individual development each pair/group for a specific role in the final output. In a manufacturing concern it could be how best to mentor an unskilled or semi skilled worker to utilise creative use of labour being mentored by an experienced worker who has innovated himself shortcuts and methods to improve his output either deliberately or otherwise. This happens with each of us. Given a task and a time frame our unconscious mind works out probable solutions and shortcuts to finish the work effectievely. With this dexterity , it improves and gets polished.



Planning:

This is the most important factor in the cycle. This requires vision and forethought. The broad outline or the prototype of the requisite program is drawn and then related to the man power and other available resources at disposal. Here decision is also taken as to fresh recruitment or fresh acquisition of meterial for the purpose, as is necessary. It also takes care of the available mentors and their time schedules and their length of service remaining which could be fruitfully utilised by the organisation. Planning also involves selection or identification of the type of mentoring to be implemented. Planning thus includes cost budget planning, resource mobilisation and utilisation planning, time management planning, and finally risk assessment and planning for vis majore.



Each of these subjects are much wider than it appears to be so I confine to only the most necessary topics in the current discussion.



Implementation:

This is putting into effect all those plans including initiation and rolling of the program. The strategies worked out in the planning stage are implemented in sequential pattern . Mentors and mentees are identified and grouped. Their tasks defined and assigned. The pre-mentor trainings if any are imparted before this step especially before identification and allocation of specific pairs and groups.







Monitoring:

This stage is equally important as every stage contributes to the final results, and is carried out religiously at regular intervals. In organised and structured mentoring this becomes more indispensible and mandatory. The corrective measures including necessary de-tours and deviations from the programmed path are decided here. The right note at the right time makes the music more melodious If the association is not moving with a minimum required velocity and necessary impetus, then decisions are taken to change both the course and course meterial .



Feed back and closure:

This is the final stage of the mentoring process. Here the results are assessed and evaluated. They are graded and classified and acknowledged. The Before-after reports are compiled and kept as resource meterial for future implementations and requirements. The whole process is briefly diarised and passed on to the systems for archives available for ready reference anytime.



Here the evalution should be possibly done by a person/persons who are not parties to monitoring or implementation of the mentoring system. Needless to say he should not be either mentor or mentee.. This could be done by an impartial and uninvolved employee of the organisation, and need not be an outsider. This will give correct results without fear or favour.



Certain issues, or negative critisism about mentoring:



The mentor has to do some additional work and spare his time within or without the daily work schedule he is paid for. In an organised system of mentoring this aspect is not envisaged as the mentor should be adequately compensated or atleast appear to have been compensated which would make him more proactive and productive.(the remunerative aspect)



A pat on the back, one grade more while considering merits for promotion or if not a small increment can do wonders!



Mentoring works well when it is less formal and less official. The more formal and rigid it is made, the less productive it becomes. This is because of the basic tendency of humans to break the laws!!! controls should be minimum and just required to safeguard the interests of the organisation and not to be implemented with a cane in hand!



Organised mentoring should be introduced in a phased manner and not in one single go as it has to be given its time to ripen and become sweet to taste!



Formation of miscible groups with different talents and wider exposure should be encouraged which will save time and energy in the long run



Lastly, mentoring should be kept within its defined contours without diluting its originality, and be permitted to co exist with the existing system, and should be used as a supplement and not as a substitute.





Ajay Menon

09 August 2012

Trivandrum



































Tuesday, December 27, 2011

Desire

Desire:

When I look into your eyes
I see the pangs of fire
Dancing with desire,
Oh, forgive me , if I sin,
Again,

When I come closer to you
I get that feel of you,
Yearning for my love
Oh, dont stop me.if I sin
Again.

When I take your hands,
So warm to hold,
Making me really mad,
Oh, please excuse me., If I sin,
Again,


When you kissed me so,
With all your heart,
Made me so mad,
Oh, Dont blame me , If I sin,
Again

And
When we lost the world,
And trod onto the skies,
Sharing the soul and self,
Oh,. Forgive us, If we sin,
Again.

Tuesday, November 15, 2011

അതിമോഹം:

അതിമോഹം:


ഉഷ്ണമാപിനിയുടെയീ നിമ്നോന്നതങ്ങല്ക്കൊ പ്പം,
തളര്ന്നു മയങ്ങുന്നെന്നാശാ സൂനങ്ങളാകെ
മൃദു ലാളനങ്ങളാല്‍ സാന്ത്വനം പകരുവാന്‍
കൊതിക്കും,മനം , മെയ്യും, തുടിക്കും ഹൃത്താരിടം;

വെറുതെ മറ്റെന്തിനോ വൃഥാ വിലപിക്കുമ്പോള്‍
അരികെ ,അകലുവാന്‍ കൊതിക്കും ബന്ധനങ്ങള്‍
തിരികെ വരുമെന്ന് നിനച്ചു പകലന്തി-
ക്കതിരോന്‍ മുങ്ങുംവരെ കാത്തുകാത്തിരുന്നു ഞാന്‍

പിന്നെയീ ഇരുള്ക്കാംുപിന്‍ തിക്താന്ധകാരം നീക്കി
വന്നെങ്കില്‍ എന്നോര്ത്ത്ത ഞാന്‍ േമഘ ജാലകം തുറ-
ന്നെത്രയും കനിവിന്റെ പോല്ക്കിരണങ്ങളേന്തി
നല്‍ നുറു നിലാവായെന് കൈക്കുംപിള്‍ നിറയുമോ?

അജയ്‌ മേനോന്‍

Friday, October 14, 2011

പ്രിയ സഖീ....

പ്രിയ സഖീ....

അകലേ,നീ പൊന്‍ മുകിലേ,
ആഴകേ,പൊലി നിറ കതിരേ,

വരുമോ നീയൊന്നരികേ?
പകരാം നറു നവനീതം

മതി തീരും വരെയെന്നും
മുഴുകാം സുഖമനുരാഗം,

പറയൂ സഖി മടിയാതെ
മിഴികള്‍ നിറയുവതെന്തേ?

നിശതന്‍ നീലീമ തഴുകും
തനുവില്‍ തമ്പുരുമീട്ടും

കുസൃതിക്കാറ്റു പറഞ്ഞോ?
വരുകില്ലയവന്‍ വേറേതോ

മലരിന്‍ മധുകണമൂറും
അധരം തേടിയകന്നോ?

വെറുതേ വീണ്‍വാക്കല്ലേ?
ചപലേ ചാരുത വേറെ

വരുമോ നിന്നോളം പൊന്നേ ?
പ്രണയം സുഖമയ സുകൃതം..

അജയ് മേനോന്‍ 14 oct 2011

Saturday, July 17, 2010

A cry in the wilderness!!!! Part I
Posted on May 08, 2009 under General

A cry in the wilderness!!!!

There was a lot of noise outside.I got up from my bed to see what is going on outside? I was just having a little rest after a tedious session of what you may call as investigative journalism .The evening sun was peeping through the windows drawing enigmatic and gory murals on the adjacent walls, as if it was the judgement day!!!.

“Maro saale ko, Kuthe bahar nikal …” Yes there was a mob outside, pelting stones and brandishing local armoury. I felt a chill on my spine, what the hell is going on?
“thud” a stone hit right on my temples, and its sudden impact made me reel down, in agonising pain. A moment later I gathered myself, ran towards the door, Somebody was trying to break open the front door!!

My profession as a journalist has earned me enough enemies, The report on the recent massacre in the name of religion might have kindled the spark, nay the lightning ,!!! I pondered,
Well, I had no further time to think. I heard people shouting, wailing, howling, weeping, abusing from the yonder flats, as unfortunately I was on the third floor,. I could not see what was happening near me, as the only way to outside world was my front door,which was blocked, and straining to flee from the hinges, at any moment due to the heavy pressure put on it by the unruly mob craving for my blood, ? I realised that at any moment the door may give way and I may be left with no mercy at the belligerent gathering.

Man,, you have to live, at least for your kids, your family, clinging on the only hope that is you, and they cant just be left in the lurch , and you are not destined to be killed by this wicked devils who does not have any feeling for their fellow beings and purely guided by political motives!! My inner conscience cajoled me , I was almost at the end of my wits when I knew that jumping through the balcony may be foolish, as, even if I reach the ground in one piece there was a bigger mob down there to swallow me alive with burning torches,in their hands.

Now I have to somehow prevent the mob breaking open my door, only hope was to try to push the heavy book rack against it, which I don’t know whether I can manage alone!
I had only Hobson’s choice, I lunged toward the rack and mustered all the strength and courage left with me, and pushed, OHHH, it is inching toward the door, hopefully,
Minutes appeared as long long hours to me , but by Herculean efforts, I could reach it against the door, by the time the hinges were squealing heavily with the tremendous pressure withstood so long . Hell, my temples were bleeding like hell, blinding me , and I was about to loose conscience, but, some how, I managed to keep my eyes open, and wiping away the blood which was gushing out of the wounds. I felt a bit safe at the thought that the noise outside was gradually receding and there was abrupt silence for a few seconds, I tried to peep through the balconly, which was grilled and covered, though, and to ignite my anxiety, I found the crowd was gone and there were occupants of the neighbouring flats fleeing to safety.
I could hear them shouting , ohh God, this trauma, will it end, or just engulf me in its wrath of disastrous flames forever?
God, hath sent all men equal , with no barriers of religion, caste or creed, , and it is high time that the different man made communities who created these impregnable fortresses,bury the hatchet and nurse the wounds hatched up in utter hatred and disregard to the fellow beings, but in the name of religion!!! ,lest the budding generation, unwary of such heinous crimes, shall never ever forgive, and their every single drop of tear shall shatter to smithereens including the last one who lies buried under the graveyards of insanity.
My happiness was shortlived when I found that through the broken window panes smoke balls were slung inside, and in a fraction of a second I could sense the acrid smell of burning wood and rubber, oh!! They have put my home on fire!!!. Kerosene and dirty clothes on fire created a nauseating sensation, and I was chocking ., virtually, when my inner self guided me toward the toilet on the other side, of the hall, where I snapped open the shower and tried to cooldown my sweltering body, , and kept all the taps open and water gushing out of them provided a temporary solace to my ailing self, though I knew that the water also will defitely get hot with the tubes getting burnt, and to add fuel to the fire, my nostalgic collection of books went aflame, I shut the bathroom door, in utter agony, only to realise that my time must be counted from now, as there is no escape , and as the water too started getting hotter, and hotter, I felt to muster all the left life in me and started praying, that let God forgive me of all the sins, as I felt being dragged down in a whirlpool never ending, to depths unfathomed, where reality is lost to infinity, and the glow of a thousand suns washing away the tiniest ember, into oblivions.


Hours later: may be days ???

I woke up and found myself ensconsed to the bed, shivering and quite a lot of inquisitive eyes prying on me ?. Was I alive, or in the netherworld? I couldn’t decipher, but to my feeble mind, as a soothing breeze, I could recognise my children, my wife, and all my loving friends, oh,, God is great, they told me that I luckly escaped as the police had rushed to the site by the time I fell unconscious in the toilet, and the flowing water inside kept me live!! My skin was almost baked, but, I lived, I live even today, cursing myself, of this barbaric insane and uncivilized society which I live in, hands tied, blinded , brainwashed, and left to continue like a vegetable lamenting on my fate.!!!

Ajay menon,
ajay2354@yahoo.com

All about shawls

Hey, Shawl, Duppatta, or that long piece of cloth worn around the neck by men and women, is not just a drapery, it has its own enigma, its own charm, its own story, which goes like this:

The " thing" worn around, has it origin to places usually colder, and not tropical places, as it is basically used to protect you from chilly weather.However, it has now become a indispensable item in any wardrobe.Why? , Let me classify the usage of the fabric based on gender.

Ladies first:
Though of unquestionable origin, the duppatta, has been hanging around the necks of very an indian lady, and it is the epitome of cultural inheritage,than a fashion statement, often, displaying modesty and virginity.At times, girls dressing up without this appendage was oft treated as vagabonds !! Obviously the outlook of the Indian society is changing at snails pace, though, is appreciable.The duppatta comes in all styles and hues, and trims, and it could be hung in many a ways around the lissome neck, of the lady just a U tie, flinging both the ends on the back, which flutters with every gentle breeze and throws envious glances all around..,or the conservative tie, with the ends still dangling on the back, but the U is deeper in the front , well covering the bosom, from prying eyes, and ogling urchins, and at times, the most casual, with one end on the back and one on the front, but both tied up at the hip level, especially useful while working , or driving, .A more adorable scene is when the lady covers her head too with the fabric, which gives a pristine indian look, and the old times north indian "bahu"s do peep through it, when addressing strangers, at home.
Now for the uses of this fabric: (women could use !! ) For wiping sweat (common to man and women) for wiping hands , for covering when the weather drops down, to shield drizzling, to cover face when shy, and to chew the end when in tension, and lastly to use as a noose around somebody when he comes to attack you !!!
Now coming to Men: Men use this mainly as a protective gear rather than a fashion accessory.The meterial used may be thick, and usually in lighter hues.They mostly use it to blow the nose, wipe out sweat, and ofcourse as a towel, to wipe hands or any other part as men are not (generally!!! )shy. Then comes the use by the politicians,It represents their party, and each party has its own shawls, which is a part of the party uniform.
Not every party member could use it, only the distinguished are supposed to wear it.It depends on the party protocol.
All said and done, shawls do play an important role in our day to day business, and it has its own place in the Indian society, from time immemmorial. The turban is just another modified shawl, and the hip belt worn by karate or kalari enthusiasts are too just highly adapted version of this humble fabric.

Shawls do come in handy in any climatic conditions, and please keep one at arms length, lest it could help you any time time and again
bye
ajay

A poem and an anecdote not to forget

The Fairy
Posted on Aug 17, 2009 under General

Yonder ,beyond the gates of heaven,
Find her,the fairy, loveliest of all;
Fluttering her glittering wings wide apart,
Must be the angel of love, well ,true love.

A Fairy, you know, the fairest of all,
Softer than the clouds,finer than silk;
Purer than Crystal,sweeter than honey,
She dwells in all hues,that Rainbows, envy;

She sings all day ,and sparrow turns green,
she skips and hops around your garden;
Making flowers bloom, and air fragrant,
Don't blame her if you're lost in a trance;

She sits by your side, melting your ears,
with sweet nothings, dreams and fantacy;
Behold, be gentle with her,and never ever,
Make her cry, and if she does ! Well;
Heavens shall spit lightning on you,
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Mourning on a mongrel
Posted on Jul 20, 2009 under stories

Mourning on a mongrel Part I
It was just another lovely evening , the sun about to take its plunge into slumber on the lap of the mother Earth, the golden waves lapping rythmetically and singing lullabies how serene?
We were taking a curve near our home, when suddenly a neighborhood dog started barking at us. Then suddenly it reminded us of our pets, Oh ,the first one was a Dobermann, Pluto, and it was sure very naughty ,teething on the mud flaps of the new car, and the floor mats of the scooter. Shout at it, beat it , it wont budge an inch, and it consumed three sets of the rubber parts of the expensive car.when it grew one and a half year old, it became unmanageable and we gave it away to a good Samaritan.
Then we got our lovely Labrador, creamy white fluffy tail and so cute that one will hug it a thousand times., It was a smart dog , but a tad bit greedy.This also we kept for more than a year or so and when we couldn’t groom it properly we gave it away to our driver, who virtually eloped with it!!.
Then we had one Alsatian,(bobby, ) which was a weakling by birth, poor thing did not live more than three months or so and died of some ailment. We wept and wept for days together, on its bereavement.
Ultimately we decided to have a stronger breed and settled for a Rottweiler, (Rambo), which when it grew up with the Labrador, became so docile and friendly unknown for its breed and it was a real surprise for the attending Vet.,who really freightened us narrating all sorts of horror stories about Rottweilers !!! We parted with it when it became so strong and nothing could stop it even the strongest of leashes.It must be somewhere around I wistfully hope!!!
Oh all those pets, now, not with us, some strange feeling of sadness clouded our minds hearing the dog barking at us,, we have to have one more dog,,
As we negotiated the curve, lo, a white puppy came running from nowhere, and Appu as if by instinct picked it up and held it close to his bosom. I will keep it, it is mine, it came after me,, look at it, it is my bunini, (Labrador) born again,
No dear, it is a mongrel, look at its tail ., I pouted, its tail was really shooting up like a sickle, undulating incessantly, and the poor thing started licking appus cheeks, “no nnooo bunini I had taken bath twice today,,,”Appu resisted.
It was a surprise to all at home, oh, a mongrel ,,, of all dogs, not again,,throw it away, shoo , shoo… appus mother was yelling her head out.
Appu ran to the backyard, still holding his prized possession close to his chest, He is inconvincible, and would never relent,.
Well, let him keep it, it will run away in a day or two , I consoled.
The next day, Appu did not attend school, despite the severest of warnings flung at him in the wee hours of the morning, by his mom, he squirmed out of his covers and ran out and disappeared in no time.” Oh this boy will never learn, he has heavy wheezing, and at night he does not get a wink of sleep, with this dog I don’t know, what is in store, Rama..Rama.”
Appu was in another world, he was trying to give small lessons to the puppy, which reacted with full zest and vigor, but not learning a thing, except to show its love by licking, slurping and wagging its slender tail and jumping around in circles around appus thin frame.
In the evening we had to go to the nearby doctor and also the temple, so for a change we left on foot, and the evening air was soothing, Puppy was asleep near a papaya tree on the frontyard, when we left.
After the visit was over, appu was complaining of leg pain, as we walked more than 4 kilometeres, and it was strenuous for the little child. We returned by an auto, and when about to reach our home, we found a small animal lying in a pool of blood on the middle of the road.I asked the auto driver out of sheer curiosity, “was it a kitten or a puppy?”
“a puppy sir” he retorted.Several gory images flashed in my mind for a second, I prayed .But to our utter agony, we reached home not to find our dear puppy waiting for us.,
It might have shadowed us when we left and could have been hit by a vehicle.,,?
Thinking of the selfless and real love of the little animal, our eyes inundated with tears, what could we do but cry ,cry and cry